When Ceilings Collapse

I remember being shaken awake, urged out of bed, and told not to worry—everything was going to be okay, I was going to be okay.

It was June. The sunny skies of Southern California unexpectedly turned to grey, and torrents of rain began to fall over night.

And then the ceiling collapsed at 5AM—directly over my parent's bed—destroying the entire room as water and debris flooded in. My parents were lucky—they had been up all night trying to keep up with all of the water which was leaking into our home through the exposed ceiling. We had just begun construction on our house, and we had no roof. No one had expected rain in sunny California, especially not in June.

When their ceiling collapsed, my parents shook my sister and I awake. We were soon out of the house and safe from being crushed by debris. We, too, were lucky: the ceiling directly over our bunk beds collapsed shortly after we left.

But everything was okay. Our ceilings collapsed, but no one was hurt, and our house was put back together again.

Two years later, on September 11th, 2001, I was shaken awake with the same fearful urgency and reassured that everything was going to be okay. I watched in horror as the ceiling of our entire country collapsed and those mighty buildings fell. I watched the planes crash, the flames consume, the bodies leap.

But I trusted my parents. I was nine; of course I trusted them. Everything was going to be okay. I was going to be okay.

I still believe them: everything is going to be okay. Our house is not the same as it was before the ceilings collapsed. There are still a couple of cracked windows all these years later, reminders of the terror of that June morning when my whole world caved in. Furniture was destroyed and never restored. When our ceiling leaked in last year's huge rain storms, the fear of the memory sent shockwaves of panic through us. But everything is okay. Our house still stands. Though earthquake or fire or storm or violence could strike at any moment and bring my house down once more, destruction does not have the last word.

But the destruction of 9/11 was much worse than physical destruction, much more than an attack on a building. It was an emotional and spiritual destruction, violence which pierced through our very souls. It was, and still is, unfathomable.

Yet our reaction to the unfathomable violence of 9/11 has been just as unfathomable. Like repairing our collapsed ceilings by destroying our neighbour's, our violent reaction does nothing to heal our wounded souls. We will never bring back the lost lives, and the towers, even if they were to be rebuilt, would never quite stand as they once stood.

But our souls can heal. We have witnessed violence beyond what any of us could have ever imagined, but witnessing does not require mimicry. Witnessing demands action, but the action we choose is up to us. Lessons can be learned from Norway's reaction to the terrorism in their own country.

"I think July 22 will be a very strong symbol of the Norwegian people's wish to be united in our fight against violence, and will be a symbol of how the nation can answer with love," said Norwegian Prime Minister Jens Stoltenberg.

The Amish, too, could teach us something about how we react to senseless violence. Writes Donald B. Kraybill:

Amish faith is grounded in the teachings of Jesus to love enemies, reject revenge, and leave vengeance in the hands of God. As a father who lost a daughter in the schoolhouse [shooting] said, "Forgiveness means giving up the right to revenge."

Everything will be okay. I believe in the possibility of our liberation and the power of love to heal and free us from the pain of the horrific violence with which we are still struggling to deal ten years later. But destruction does not have the last word. Rather than being extremists for war, we must be, as Martin Luther King, Jr., writes in his Letter from Birmingham Jail, "extremists for love." Only through extreme acts of love can we conquer destruction, re-build our nation, and heal our terrorised souls.